Last night I went to Pilates in lieu of running in the cold. It was a small class of five women and there we were, far away from our regular schedule, at peace with our bodies and minds at 8pm. We smiled politely at one another between sets, no one knew the other, but were sharing this environment that nurtured a peace of mind and a healthy body. On the drive home I got to thinking about why I felt that what had just been experienced seemed so rare these days – a group of women sharing space together, genuinely positive towards themselves and one another. I then started thinking about all the Desperate Housewives shows I watch and the catfights that seem to drag on each season with every episode.
What is it about these shows that capture my attention? When did it become the norm to see women against one another over men, appearance, money, status, heck anything! It gave me a lot to think about, including my role in being the change I want to see in my world. It may sound silly, but I think it’s important for me to stop watching these shows (even though I know the NYC ladies make their debut tomorrow night sans Bethenny), try really hard to think positive thoughts when I see a girl sizing me up, and resist the urge to compare the size of my thighs with the gal walking down the street.
So when I see someone leave a negative comment on a blog, or make comparisons being made over who wore what the best, it makes me really sad (and mad) that women are devaluing one another instead of celebrating our uniqueness. There are loads of messages aimed our way that highlight conflict and comparison, pushing for us to be prettier, skinnier, happier, wealthier, more organized..the very best version of ourselves. It’s good for me to remember to be at peace within and see women as different versions of myself who face similar struggles and (hopefully) wish for the same level of understanding and acknowledgement.
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